The Psychology of Long-Term Goals: Why You Avoid Your Greatest Desires

It’s less about talent and more about hard work

How you approach your goals is even more important

  1. Towards pleasure
  2. Towards meaning
  3. Towards engagement

Your mindset matters

  • Fear of Devaluation of Self-Estimate
    Failure to achieve something you worked for forces you to reevaluate what you previously considered to be a stable self-image. This can deal a serious blow to your self-confidence and self-esteem.
  • Fear of Social Devaluation
    This pertains to the perceived negative social consequence of failing to achieve a goal such as social rejection, being thought of as incapable, and being cast out of a social circle where the goal is thought to be important.
  • Fear of Non-Ego Punishment
    Being fired or losing money are just some of the non-ego punishments that can intimidate a person from approaching a goal with confidence.

Bonus: How to Stick to Long-Term Goals

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